Are you, your biggest critic? If you said ‘yes’, you aren’t alone.
Do you ever find yourself constantly criticizing yourself?
“I’m not good enough” … “That will never be me” … “I’m not talented like ____”
If these words have ever come out of your mouth. First of all, know that that you aren’t alone. Second, STOP.
There have been many times throughout my life & within the years of Cupcake, that I found myself comparing my journey with others. It’s so easy to look at other photographer’s work (or whatever industry you are in or even role you currently hold) and think, “why am I not there yet?” When I say ‘role’, this can be anywhere from a couple’s standpoint, “why do they get to travel & we can’t?” or from a mother’s point of view, “She’s superwoman. She does it all! Me? It’s 3pm & I’m still not out of my PJ’s”.
It can be so easy for us to compare ourselves with others & their situations. The truth is this, we all have different lives, we all have different situations going on. Some of us are in a one income family, some of us are in two. Some of us are single mothers & others are not. Some of us have been in business for 10+ years & others are barely picking up their first camera.
We are all so different.
The best advice I can give you is this:
Give yourself time to grow.
Be kind to yourself.
Think about it this way, would you speak to a friend, the way you spoke to yourself? – “You have no talent” … “You will never succeed” …
Well, you could speak that way, but I can’t promise that person would continue to be fiends with you. So, why do we speak to ourselves in that way?
Something to think about.
The next time, you are feeling down & about to tell yourself hurtful things, turn it around to something positive.
“I’ve always wanted to start a business, I know I can do it. I need to start somewhere. Today is the day. Let me make a list & work on it!”
Instead of… “I’ve always wanted to start a business, but I can’t. I don’t know where to start. Wish it was easier. Oh well.”
Those constant positive praises will do wonders. So if you are feeling negative & feeling the need to be ‘mean to yourself’. Don’t. Turn that negativity into positivity. Be kind. Especially to yourself.